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The Circle Shape in the Family Puzzle

First, I need you to take a test. Draw one of these shapes (you can even do it in the air), but it helps to draw it. Draw a circle, square, triangle or squiggle? If you jumped at the chance to draw a shape you might be a circle. If you are a CIRCLE keep reading! (Check these blogs for the Square, Triangle and Squiggle shape.)


Circles* care about others and will do whatever it takes to keep their family, friends, and co-workers happy. They focus on smooth waters and keeping the peace. They are sensitive and care about feelings. Circles are right-brain orientated; wholistic thinkers and interested in how everything fits together. They are excellent people problem-solvers.


Circles are the best communicators because they listen and establish empathy with others. They can read people well, identifying a phony in a minute. Circles are great team players, but weak business managers. They try too hard to please others. Circles have the greatest difficulty in life when they must deal with human conflict. They will accommodate others and blame themselves when things go wrong.


The Circle Shape in the Family Puzzle

Circles are nature and pet lovers. They will gravitate to jobs with people and helping professions. Their desk is a mess, but their office are filled with comfort as if you visited their home instead of their office. They don’t have set routines, because they need to be available to others. They are joiners and are everyone’s favorite person. Circles greet others with, ‘have a nice day’ and there is a reason the smiley face is a circle!


If you live with a circle you are lucky. They are caring, sensitive and a wonderful host. The downside, they are sloppy, lazy and need a large slush fund to give gifts to others. To live in peace, remember to give both quality and quantity time.


The circle child is a joy to every parent. Because of their need to please others it is important to teach them they can’t please everyone. Guide their friendships; they are also vulnerable to peer pressure. Circles cry a lot and are hypersensitive, they tend to be harder on themselves then you are on them. They demand a lot of attention, because they need people. If they are not getting attention, they will get it in negative ways.


Keys to raising a child that is a circle:

  1. Provide playmates (siblings, other family members or neighborhood kids)

  2. Encourage team sports and youth groups

  3. Set firm expectations for good grades – they will do it to please you

  4. Be a good listener because thoughts and feelings are important

  5. Guide them to people-orientated career

*This is based on Communicating Beyond our Differences by Susan Dellinger. (*Not all the descriptions will apply to every circle, but if the majority do, then the circle is your correct personality shape.
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